Anniversary Day

Today is my 20th wedding anniversary.

In a way, it doesn't seem that long.

And in a way, it does.

There are things I've learned over the years....and keep in mind that I'm no expert when it comes to wedded bliss.  But I'm pretty sure these are universal.

(1)  Overlook the small flaws.  Everyone has them.  Me included.  Thankfully, my beloved looks past them.

(2)  Laugh!  Humor helps diffuse tension and can melt away stress.

(3)  Communicate, never assume, and remember your spouse CAN'T READ YOUR MIND.  Even after having been together for 20 years, I don't know my husband through and though.  I still ask him what some of his favorite things are, because sometimes, favorites change.  If I need him to do something, I don't wait for him to know what I'm thinking.  I ask!

(4)  Remember that life is a roller coaster.  It will go up and down.  It will be thrilling and scary.  It will make you cry.  Share those things TOGETHER.  They will bring you closer together.

(5)  GO ON DATES.  We wasted quite a few years not dating and didn't realize how badly our relationship needs that.  It gives us a chance to reconnect, discuss how we can be better parents, and be grown ups!

Are there more?  Sure.  But it's up to you to figure them out and apply it to your own marriage.

We aren't perfect in our relationship, but we keep trying because someday, we know we can be.

I, for one, am eternally grateful that Scott took a chance on me.  He has blessed my life in so many ways.  I look forward to a thousand more years of together with him.

Here's a look back at our last 20 years.

And happy anniversary to my husband, my kids' dad, my best friend, my lover, my confidant, my cheerleader, my tutor, and my toes-warmer.  I love you more now than ever and hope that our love will continue to flourish as we grow old(er) together.